Valentine’s Day is fast approaching and the pressure is on to find somewhere great to go and something fun to do with your loved one. Planning can consume your mind in the lead up to the most romantic day on the calendar as you don’t want to leave anything to chance. However, even the most romantic, fun and perfectly planned Valentine’s Day can sometimes take an unexpected twist.

A couple who had been on and off over the last few months had gotten back together just a week before Valentine’s Day. This left very little time to prepare and most of the good places were booked out. A friend of the couple, who we’ll call Annie, came to the rescue and altered their restaurant booking from two to four people. Huge relief came over the man from the other couple as his on-again partner and he had somewhere to go.

During the meal the dreaded topic of ex-partners came up. Such a wonderful topic for Valentine’s Day. Annie was asked about her past experiences and she was happily talking about a guy she had dated about three years back. Annie was asked why they had broken up. Annie didn’t really know but she said that she wished that they hadn’t. Well the look on Annie’s current partner at the dinner table was like thunder. The table became silent as Annie realised what she had said. Her partner stormed out and Annie went after him. After about 5 minutes they came back and finished their meal, but it was still awkward for both couples for the rest of the night. The happy ending to this story is that Annie and her partner are still together 10 years later.

A second couple were on their first day one particular February 14^th and so you would think that a certain amount of impressing was to be done. He, Steve, picked her on time, greeted her with flowers, had arranged a mid-level restaurant and was dressed extremely smartly. The evening was going great, the conversation was free-flowing, and things were going surprisingly well for a first date with the added pressure of Valentine’s Day.

The meal was enjoyed by both and it was getting late. The waiter brought the bill over and placed it in the middle of the table. Steve took the bill and reached for his wallet. Steve checked both pockets and became slightly more frantic with each pocket being checked. Steve looked around with an embarrassed look on his face. He’d had a wonderful date with a beautiful girl, but he was now left with a horrible confession that he’d forgotten his wallet. Thankfully the girl had her purse and dug Steve out of a rather embarrassing hole.

The third and final story involves a couple who decided to enjoy a good bottle of champagne to mark the occasion. The waiter came over to their table and took their drinks order. A bottle of bubbles was ordered and came in an ice-bucket. The guy, Lee, confidently took the bottle and tried removing the cork with a corkscrew. His date asked him if he knew what he was doing, and he replied with an air of confidence that he did.

Lee was taking a fair bit of time removing the cork and was becoming more brash in his attempts to open it. You could almost see sweat dripping off his brow. The cork was becoming loose and Lee hadn’t kept his hand on the corkscrew. Needless to say, the cork and corkscrew came flying out. Luckily nobody was hurt but everyone turned around and looked at the both. Lee poured the first glass and nonchalantly nodded his head to the onlookers and carried on as if there was nothing to see here.

Let’s hope your Valentine’s Day goes better than these ones. Remember, don’t talk about ex-partners, double check that you have your wallet and practice opening the champagne bottle at home if you haven’t done it before.

If you’re struggling to think what to buy your partner this Christmas, have you considered the importance of their love language in your decision making? What are love languages you say? Good question! As our gift to you, here’s an article we wrote earlier to explain the five love languages, and it’s called; Love Languages and Zodiac Signs.

Christmas is an exciting time of year for most couples. The time off work, the festivities, family reunions and of course, the gifts. The gift is one of the elements of Christmas that you have control over and that can make the season extra special. With that in mind, let’s look at some tips for each love language that can give you a head start in choosing the perfect gift for your loved one.

If your partner’s love language is Receiving Gifts then you need to put thought into their gift. It’s not good enough to give just any gift, it needs to be thoughtful as they place significant importance on the gift. Keep in mind that they may also use it as a gauge to how much you care about them. It doesn’t have to be expensive, just thoughtful.

Has your partner been dropping hints throughout the year that you’ve picked up on? Does something they already have desperately need upgrading or replacing? It’s also important to give a gift they would want, not something that you want. Ensure it is their interest or need that is catered for, not yours. They will love you for it. Remember to keep your ears open for next year too.

If Quality Time is what your partner responds to most then this might take a little bit of effort and commitment on your part. That’s not a bad thing because your relationship will reap the rewards later. In the short term you could plan a movie night at home with them. Just the two of you. Keep your phone well out of sight as it will just take the time away from them to someone else. Cosy couch time with your partner will always go down well.

If you can and are willing to put in extra effort, you can plan a small trip away with each other. Making sure you and your loved one are both present in the moment together without distractions. Going even further, commit to learning something new with each other. Not only will this be useful but it will also give you a sense of accomplishment as a couple.

When your loved one has a love language of Words of Affirmation, remember the card! This can often be more important that the gift. They will most likely keep the card if the words are meaningful, but the gift may not be so well cared for.

You can score points by putting serious thought and meaning into the words you write in their card. Write something that makes them feel loved and shows that you care. If you can, maybe get a card customised to include your message to them. If you want to really nail it, start writing a relationship journal now for next Christmas. Remember to still by your partner a gift but keep in mind that the words will be the most effective and treasured.

Acts of Service can be a love language that is simple or difficult to pacify, depending on your willingness to put in effort and the skills you possess. A simple thing that you can bring out this Christmas is to surprise them with breakfast in bed. If that’s not possible then you could always do some of their chores. Anything less your loved one has to do over the Christmas holiday period will be greatly appreciated.

Is there a project that they have mentioned that needs doing around the house? If so, maybe it’s time to get that organised this Christmas. You still require a gift and a card but the emphasis needs to be in the act of you doing something to serve their needs.

The Physical Touch love language can be simpler to cater for in the short term but trickier in the long term. Buying your partner some massage oils and making time for them to have them caressed onto their body is a lovely but simple way to get Christmas right this year. If you’re not confident in your massaging ability, then you could purchase them a professional or couples’ massage. This takes a little of the personal touch out, but it is still a thoughtful gift based around their love language.

An idea that may require extra effort on your part is to be more affectionate towards them. It doesn’t have to be full on affection but ensuring that your partner can literally feel your presence and your love on an ongoing basis will give them confidence in your relationship. Remembering that it is to serve their needs but if you benefit out of it a little too, where’s the harm in that.

Whatever you decide to do or buy for your partner this Christmas, we hope that you all have a safe and wonderful time and enjoy the benefits of being thoughtful to each other.

Building a successful partnership takes time and effort and involves a lot of good qualities from each of you. Most people will have only one truly successful relationship in their life. That’s just one relationship that doesn’t involve a break-up. So, if that’s the case, does your relationship display the habits that are required to form a successful relationship?

Communication is probably the most important habit of all. It should be the foundation or cornerstone of all strong relationships. Be honest and open with each other. If you can discuss all things with each other then it has multiple benefits. Firstly, you will get a better understanding of each other and what you’ve both been through but also it helps to develop trust in a relationship.

It is fundamental to relationships that you must be able to trust each other. Everyone has enough problems to deal with in their ever-busy lives. Nobody wants to be worrying about what their other half is doing and have constant doubts nagging away in the back of their minds. Communication builds trust and trust helps to build more open communication. If you can keep your trust in each other then you’re building a healthy foundation. If there’s a breach of trust, then you’ll need to work quickly to fix that before it becomes a major problem in the relationship.

Remember to show appreciation for the role your partner plays in your life. It’s easy to take for granted the things that people do for each other the longer you’re together. If your partner makes you dinner, be vocal in your thanks. They will appreciate it. It’s a simple habit and costs you absolutely nothing. You wouldn’t hesitate to show your appreciation if your mate bought you a drink so ensure that you remember to appreciate the small things you do for each other on a daily basis.

Having a life outside a relationship is important. The better communication and the more trust you have in each other, the easier this should be to maintain. This is not always easy, especially if children are involved but it is important none the less. Having a catch up and a laugh with your friends is a great way to relax and help you to feel refreshed within your relationship. It also means that if you have an interest that you don’t share with your partner, you can still maintain that interest with your friends. It’s healthy for both of you if you are both able to enjoy life with and without each other.

Sex is obviously an important trait for couples who hold strong. If there’s a happy amount then it plays a part in keeping you close to each other. That frequency could be a low or high, it depends on what you both want from each other. You don’t have to have sex every day, or even every week, to have a long-lasting relationship with someone. It just needs to be enough for both of you.

Respect is key too. Respect their job, their family and their ways. It doesn’t mean you always have to agree but a relationship without respect is harmful. Your partner does their best with what they’ve been given. It may be more or less than other people, but it deserves just as much respect as the most successful person in life.

Remember to compromise with each other. Each of you will have different opinions and feelings and you’ll need to give some ground occasionally. Don’t always give up your opinion or feelings for the sake of compromise but learn to know when it is required. It will help to preserve the love and respect for each other.

Finally, don’t compare what you have with what other people have. You only see the outside of other relationships. You don’t know what’s happening on the inside. Similarly, with other people, you only see what they are like on the outside, it is not fair to make a comparison with your partner your viewing both under totally different circumstances.

Does your relationship display these habits? We hope so. If you like what you’ve read, please feel free to like, share or comment on our post.

When you’re fresh into a relationship it is common that you are wanting to spend all your free time with one another. This is usually ok for a while as you continue to get to know each other and find out all the finer details of your new partner. However, there comes a time when you are most likely going to need to reduce the time spent in each other’s shadows to keep your relationship and outside friendships at a healthy level.

This leads to the question; if once a week is too little and every waking moment is too much, then how much time should we be spending together to develop a happy relationship?

This can heavily depend upon your personality. The more introverted you are, the more alone time you are likely to crave and be able to cope with. An introvert needs space to allow themselves to process everything that’s happening in their lives. Without this opportunity they might feel suffocated and not cope so well leading to them making rash decisions.

Oppositely, the more extroverted you are, the more likely you are going to want to a little less alone time. Too much alone time can make the extrovert feel bored and unloved. The need for a little more attention needs to be met in order to prevent the extrovert from feeling isolated and lonely in their relationship.

It’s important that you don’t spend time together just for the sake of it. Your partner might start to get bored hanging out with you and you might end up with relationship boredom. If this happens it can be tricky, but not impossible to come back from and so you may wish to read our article on how to cure relationship boredom.

Also, don’t end up sacrificing the activities that you have always liked and that have shaped you. You might start to blame your partner for making you lose all your interests. These are quite possibly the things that attracted you to each other in the first place.

Also, if things don’t end up working out, your friends might no longer want to hang out with you as you dropped them when you had a partner and only want to reconnect when the going isn’t as good. Maintaining your friendships is an important step in maintaining a healthy lifestyle.

If you spend too little time with your partner, they might think you don’t care about them or don’t want to hang out with them.

You know how a holiday is always well deserved and looked forward to? A little scheduled alone time can have a similar affect for your relationship. It can make it feel refreshed and give each other a sense of freedom and independence as well. You are also more likely to look forward to your date nights with each other if you have had the chance to spend time apart and miss each other.

It’s important to remember that space and time spent together are a personal thing and you both need to find what works for each other to maintain a healthy relationship with each other. The question can really only be answered from within the relationship and whatever experts say, it’s not going to fit each individual situation.

Feel free to let us know how much alone time you need to keep your relationship healthy. We’d love it if you like or share our article too.

You all know that sex can be great, especially when you’re in the mood, but when is the best time of day to experience this pleasure?

A lot of couples have issues with their timing preferences for sex with their partner. Often when they’re in the mood you’re not and vice versa so it can cause problems for couples. Men and women are wired differently and so most likely feel urges at different times to each other. Here we take a somewhat lighthearted at times approach to finding reasons for one over the other.

Morning sex is better than evening sex because;

• you’re already warm and snuggly so no cold body parts will be working their way around your vulnerable body

• it’s more spontaneous as it’s the first thing you’ve thought about since waking up

• it’s going to be more intimate as you’re both likely to be refreshed but still half asleep and more sensual

• males have a naturally increased testosterone level meaning that you’re going to get more out of them

• if you make a mess of the bed sheets you have to get up anyway so changing them isn’t such a chore

• it’s a great workout for your day and you won’t feel so guilty about having a hearty breakfast

• it will put a smile on at least one of your faces for the rest of the day

• it’s a valid excuse to be getting out of bed late

• men, if you haven’t brought your A game and don’t think you’re going to get her there, you have the ready-made excuse that you need to go and pee

• you’re probably already dressed appropriately for the occasion

Evening sex is better than morning sex because;

• you’re not as clean after a night’s sleep and no doubt haven’t brushed your teeth before you try and seduce your partner

• you’ve probably been thinking about what you want to do to your partner for some part of the day and have a game plan in your mind

• it is more likely to be the style of sex that you most want it to be as you’re fully awake and prepared

• the couple needs to intensify the moment to keep the male things up and running making it more passionate

• if you’re worn out afterwards you can just cuddle or roll over and go to sleep but with morning sex you most likely still have a full day of work to do

• you’re not pushed for time before the alarm clock rings

• you are less likely to be interrupted by any children entering your room

• you don’t have to make up an excuse for being late to work

• you’re less likely to be stopped in the middle by the urge to use the bathroom

• you get to slowly, or quickly whichever is your preference, undress each other and visualise things as they appear

If your timings don’t match up with those of your partners it doesn’t mean that you can’t kick start those urges in them when you are feeling it. If your girl isn’t always ready for morning sex, you can build her up by stimulating her erogenous zones.

Whether your preference is morning or evening, if it differs from your partner’s then try to find ways to give each other the best of both worlds. Your partner will feel happy that you’re willing to consider their needs and so will most likely be more willing to reciprocate to fulfill yours.

What are your reasons that morning sex is better than evening sex or does evening sex win out for you?

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Most couples will have arguments periodically throughout their relationship, some more than others. They’re not always bad for your relationship as they can help to clear the air and can be a great way to make your relationship stronger. Being mature enough to resolve an argument will help you to draw closer to each other.

Common issues couples argue over include finances, romance, family and other people who one half of the relationship perceive to be a threat to them. All of these topics are just as serious as each other to the person who is feeling the strain.

So how can you resolve these problems in a way that keeps your relationship together whilst making it stronger at the same time?

When anyone is feeling threatened, upset or even angry with their partner, they are having negative feelings toward a situation. Show that you care about your partner by asking them how they feel and why they are feeling the way they are gives them a chance to release their feelings. Allowing someone to express how and why they are feeling what they feel can be a great first step in helping you to understand where they are coming from. It is important that you take time to listen to their feelings and not interrupt otherwise you risk them still holding onto some negative energy and repeating the argument at a later date.

Not interrupting your partner and allowing them to voice their feelings helps to ensure that the tone of the argument doesn’t get out of control. Sometimes it can be the way you say something that can make your point rather than the words you choose. Keeping a calm manner when you speak will show that you are in control of your emotions and also not make your partner feel threatened and defensive. It also means that they don’t have to raise their voice higher to make themselves heard and things can be kept at a conciliatory level.

You need remove pride out of any argument that you are having. If you enter an argument with an attitude of winning it at all costs, you are probably going to end up saying some pretty hurtful things that you may regret very soon after. There is no point in winning an argument if the result is you lose your partner or push them further away from you. You haven’t solved anything and will probably find yourselves in the same situation over and over.

If you are irritable and cause your partner to be upset, don’t try and make excuses for your behaviour. It isn’t their fault if you have had a bad day at the office or you received bad news from a friend or on an investment. These are all valid reasons for you to be upset but none of them are a valid reason to take it out on them. It might be an idea to drop them a polite text before you see them to let them know what’s happened today so that they are aware you may not be your usual self.

Don’t issue threats about your relationship during the course of your argument. That is going to make your partner even more upset and emotional. They may also start planning their next move in case another argument pops up and they act on your threats. Emotional blackmail isn’t a desirable tactic as it can put your partner is fight or flight mode.

Arguments are a part of life and can happen frequently. Not all arguments need to be bad and most can be good for your relationship if you can be amicable through them and explore each other’s reasoning. An argument is still a form of communication and good communication is key to all healthy and lasting relationships. Keep in mind that if you win an argument but lose your partner, did you really win?

It’s the time of year where love is in the air. A reason to dress up and splurge on all things a partner loves. Valentine’s Day is all about love, Lingerie, flowers, food, dressing up and good conversation.

Single people out there need not despair, you don’t need to worry about having a cold one. You avoid having the stress of finding the right venue or the right outfit. Sure it would be nice to be spoilt rotten on the day of love but it doesn’t always go as well as expected as I once experienced.

My date and I were sitting across the table from a young couple enjoying a Valentine’s Day double date. The room was glowing in a romantic red light with roses as the table center pieces. The entree of a delicious and juicy duck breast with ravioli and a delightful sauce was lovingly presented in front of me. I could feel myself starting to salivate in anticipation of what was about to pass my lips. I was in a pre-meal kind of heaven.

I carefully stuck the fork into the duck with excited anticipation and just like that, my moment was broken. I overheard a comment from across the table. Uh-Oh, and even I know this wasn’t going to be well received. The words “I wish I’d never broken up with him” (referring to an ex-boyfriend) came from the lips of my friend to her boyfriend. I didn’t dare to look up but rather glance sideways to my date with a shocked look, waiting for the boyfriend’s response.

I’m not going to divulge the rest of that conversation except to add that the aforementioned couple are now married. There must have been some sweet talking to get themselves through the events of that night.

If you are lucky enough to be looking forward to a special Valentine’s date this year, why not return some of the love back to them. That’s assuming that they make the desirable amount of effort to make you feel even more special.

What better way to end a romantic Valentine’s night than wearing this beautiful Bandeau Style Lingerie Set With Contract Bow Set the scene with some candles, wine and a little romantic music in the background and let the mood take a hold of you both and inspire your desire.

Bandeau Style Lingerie Set With Contrast Bow

The ribbon bow at the front affords a look that says unwrap me to reveal your gift. Another beautiful ribbon bow on the back of the neck, your love will absolutely adore this item on you.

If you fancy something with a little more tease then you will be on a winner in this gorgeous Love Heart Teddy Bodysuit Lingerie The lovely lacy straps provide some coverage but also allow your beauty to shine prominently through for an absolutely stunning look. The love heart shape cover provides a perfect complement to the occasion to really complete the look.

Love Heart Teddy Bodysuit Lingerie

If either of the above haven’t convinced you, we think that this Sexy Open Bust Babydoll Lingerie will. Featuring an open bust design with an oversized red ribbon bow strategically placed, as the description says, you’ll open up the opportunity for a time of enchantment and fascination. Designed to be see through in places, you’ll give more than a glimpse of your beauty.

Sexy Open Bust Babydoll Lingerie

Even if you are spending a quiet time at home by yourself this Valentine’s Day, you can still make yourself feel special by donning your favorite Lingerie. There’s something empowering when you’re feeling sexy and that uplifting emotion always puts your mind in a good place.

So whether you’re excited for a romantic date or having some quality ‘me time’, you can still enjoy and embrace the meaning of the night. Who knows, it may be the last Valentine’s Day that you get to enjoy by yourself.

Just a quick tip if you are on a date this Valentine’s Day, save the topic of the ex for another time and place. Oh and I’m sure you were wondering how the duck was. It was even juicier and more delectable than I had imagined and I enjoyed it immensely. I’m sure you won’t be surprised to know that I’ve never been on a double date for Valentine’s Day since.

Like what you read? Why not take a look at our other blog posts including Everybody Loves Lingerie or Lingerie Guys Love On Women.

You’ve been dating your man for some time and things have been going pretty well. You like each other’s friends and are equally at home going out or just not really doing much. Suddenly you sense that his interest in sex with you is waning slightly and you’re not sure why or even if your just overthinking things. Or maybe he’s more in the mood than sometimes rather than others and you can’t figure out why.

Let’s look at some ways to keep him interested and how to be more successful in turning him on when you want him to perform.

Learning to say no to him can be a key to keeping him keen in the bedroom. If sex isn’t a certainty then it’s more likely to lead to him trying to seduce you or be more accepting of your advances when you’re in the mood. If sex is on the table for him any time he wants then you might find him less interested on some occasions. He might even try and avoid physical contact for the fear of turning you on. When he doesn’t know the outcome of his or your advances, it can often be enough to get his mind ticking over.

Make him anticipate sex. Kiss him when you’re out in a way that says you want him. It may well play to his ego if other people are watching and see that his girl wants him. It will definitely get his mind exactly where you want it. Whispering in his ear can be a good alternative if you’re not bold enough or think he won’t appreciate the public kiss. By letting him know you want him and knowing he’s going to have to wait will really make the evening more exciting and get him to anticipate what’s going to happen.

Know which part(s) of you he loves most and don’t be afraid to tease him with it. If he is a breast man then make sure you give him glimpses with cleavage showing or see-through outfits that can focus his mind. If he’s in love with your curvy derrière, then dress to show it off to him. Whether it’s jeans that highlight your curves or short shorts that do the same, he’ll love it and won’t be able to keep his eyes, and hands off of you. If he loves your stomach, keep it under wraps until you want it to have an impact and then show it off at the right moment.

Remember to touch his skin. He can be aroused sensually too just like you can. A soft caressing touch can send shivers through his body and will certainly improve his blood circulation. A man is particularly sensitive on his bum, neck and behind his ears. Brush his bum or kiss his neck or behind the ears softly to get those shivers happening. Place your hand on his face before and during your kiss. This has a similar effect whilst also being simple to carry out.

It’s important to know where he likes you to touch so try different places and see how he responds. Remember those that trigger the desired responses but don’t overuse them or they may lose their potency.

Communication is the key as always. Talk to him about sex if the notes aren’t being played as much as you’d like. It’s just as important for you to know how to turn him on as it is for him to know how to arouse his girl to ensure satisfaction. Ask him what he wants and if you’re willing to satisfy those desires then you’ll be on the right path to sexual fulfillment for the both of you. 

Your girl has just climaxed and you’re feeling pretty damn pleased with yourself. You’re almost air high-fiving yourself as a gratified woman means a highly chuffed partner. Pleasing your girl boosts your ego and is highly satisfying for both of you. The feeling is almost one of accomplishment. It’s certainly one to start or finish the day on a high.

But just how satisfied is she really? Sure, you’ve helped her reach the destination but did she get to enjoy the journey? Did you take the full route or was it the secret short cut that you’ve come to know.

Whilst we’re in the digital age of instant gratification, a woman’s desires aren’t always as instantly fulfilled. Often a slow burn is desired to light the flames, just not too slow.

There are multiple erogenous zones on the female body and finding out which stimulates your partner the most should be top of your priorities.

There are plenty of nerve endings in the nape of her neck. Start by caressing the nape with your fingertips before moistening your lips and applying plenty of soft smooth kisses. This will help to stimulate those nerves and will most likely give her goosebumps. If she exposes more of her neck to you then you know you’re on the right track.

Turn your beautiful girl around to face you and gently start to plant soft, sensual and moist kisses on her lips. At the same time, keep tracing your fingertips up and down gently on the nape of her neck. Follow her lead and if she wants deeper firmer kisses, she’ll instigate them.

Move your hands slowly down from her neck so you can start caressing the small of her back gently with your fingers. You’ll stimulate the nerve endings in the back as the skin coverage is much thinner than other parts of her body.

You have two hands, so use them both. Move one hand down to her chest and start to stimulate one of the most sensitive parts of the female body. Her nipples are sensitive and ensure you read how she reacts to you touching them. Start softly and listen to her body. Trace her breast with your hand and then caress the nipple between your finger and thumb before massaging her breast with your whole hand if that’s the message she’s giving you.

Kiss your way down with your lips and use your tongue to further stimulate the nipples. Remember to take your time, she’s probably in no rush and wants to enjoy the moment as long as she can. Use your now spare hand on the skin of her inner thigh. Caress and squeeze it lovingly. The proximity of it to her vagina means her anticipation levels with rise like flood waters in a storm.

When the waters have risen, move on to her vagina and find the centre piece of sensitivity, the clitoris. Be gentle as it is the most sensitive part, adjust to her responses and really pay attention to her reaction. It will guide you as to how much pressure or how soft you have to be to achieve the maximum effect for her.

Both of you are there to enjoy each other and the precious shared moment. It’s essential you listen to her body to maximise the experience. She knows how to pace herself and what she wants so listen to her body and what she’s telling you through these reactions.

Remember that the journey doesn’t have to start and finish in the bedroom. Remember to enjoy the scenic route and delight in the full countryside together.

From the outside, everything is rosy in your friend’s life. Regularly posting happy snaps of themselves with their partner, status updates that point to them being madly in love and they’re always busy when you want to hang out. They both have stable jobs and nice clothes and seem to be the envy of every couple.

So rightfully you assume that your friend is in a happy place and just doesn’t have the time to hang out because they can’t get enough time with their partner. So why should you think to ask if everything is ok in their relationship? It must be right, everything we see on social media is the truth and they wouldn’t possibly post happy snaps if they weren’t happy, would they?

Maybe their relationship is stalling, maybe it’s rocky or maybe it’s in freefall and it’s all just an act to hide the truth. If their relationship appears great then it must be great mustn’t it? If I ask them they’ll think I’m jealous and snooping and not being a good friend won’t they?

A lot of people act as though nothing is wrong when in fact everything in their life can be coming down around them. They act strong and tough on the exterior, portraying an outward look of strength. Their feelings inside are eating away at them and they keep showing strength until they can no longer hide it. By then it’s too late and a complete meltdown in their relationship and in general can ensue.

It’s always ok to check in on your friends and ask them how they are. Even the most stable and loving relationships from the outside can have troubles. Your friend just might be crying out for someone to talk to and ask them how everything is. They may be longing for that listening ear but are too shy to ask and reveal the truth.

They might need a stepping stone to help them talk about their situation and by asking them sincerely you can lay that stepping stone. Whether they choose to take the path is up to your friend but at least show you’re waiting along that path for them. A simple chat may make such a huge difference to their mindset and be enough to smooth things over in their mind. It may be that you can offer reassurance that things that are happening are just a stage and normal in all relationships and can easily be overcome.

If their problems can be talked about with a trusted friend then it’s a step in the right direction to fixing them. No relationships is without problems, it’s just how people deal with them that keeps relationships on track. Maybe they’re too familiar with each other and need to cure relationship boredom or too busy at work and make no time for each other Maybe they’re arguing over finances or their partner’s friends or relatives.

The key to fixing any problems is communication. Sometimes they need that sounding board first before they approach their partner to try and resolve their problems. Not everyone has the stomach to tell their friends about their problems without being asked first so go on and ask them if everything is ok. A simple how are you and x getting on may be all it takes

If your friend trusts you enough to confide in you then do everything you can to uphold that trust. They may be on a downward spiral and if the reality gets out it may make things worse for them. Be there for them so they can count on you. You might need them one day too and it will help bring you closer to each other.